My father's mother was in her nineties at the time she came to Washington State from Arkansas with two of my father's sisters. I flew up for a few days and we all met at Darlene's in Yakima. I had not really known my father's family much at all in my life. I don't remember Darlene, Roger or I ever receiving visits, phone calls, birthday cards or Christmas cards. Maybe it was because my mom had divorced our dad.

I remember talking to my mom about this when I was about 13, living in Escondido. I wondered why Darlene, Roger and I didn't have more of a relationship with my father's family and even wondered if it was our fault. At the time, I think I felt guilty for not reaching out to them more. She reminded me that we were the children and it was really up to these adults to take the initiative to make a relationship with us. I AM glad that my dad's family did have relationships with Donna, David and Hebert. I think Donna took the initiative to stay in touch with our grandparents and my dad's family and made several trips to Arkansas through her life. 

This was a great "reunion" in 1995 and much fun, although I was banned from saying anything to my fundamentalist Baptist grandmother about being gay or having a black partner, lol. I understood, as she was in her 90's. My grandmother and aunts were very sweet and I loved visiting with them. Of course, my aunts and everybody else knew that I was gay and had a relationship with an African-American. Nobody else had any problem with that as far as I knew at the time. 

As an adult, my uncle Pete and his wife, Hazel, visited me in San Francisco and years later, after Hazel had passed away, Pete and his son, Edward, joined Donna and her family and David and his family and Milton and I on a Mexican Riviera cruise. It was so delightful to spend the week with Pete. He reminded me so much of my dad and I could see where all of us get much of our humor. I am only sorry that I didn't know my dad's family better through the years. Other than Pete, I don't even know the names of many of my dad's siblings. I couldn't even tell you how many siblings he had. I have very few photos and have only had contact with Pete and Edward through the years. 

 

 

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1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
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1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
Amber- Click to read story.
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1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
Women in Oils- Click for story
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2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
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1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
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Me in first grade- Click for story.
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
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01. Introduction

03- Dads Family

03- Photos of my Father and his family

04- My Mother's Family

04- Photos of my Mom

04- Video of my Mom

04- Walling Family Reunions

04-Audio Files of My Mom

04. Billie

04. Ole

04.1. Forbidden Dreams of Love

04.2. Flames of Forbidden Love

04.3 Mom Writing Her Life Story

05- Jim Tarbert

05. Roger

1950's Grandview to Toppenish

1957-1958 1st Grade

1958-1959- Third Grade

1959- Palouse

1961- 4th Grade- Last time I wore a dress

1962- Abilene

1963- Escondido- Early 60's

1964- Darlene Marries Chuck

1964- My Beatle Haircut

1964-The Luv Please

1965 or 1966- Steve Castle

1965- In Foster Care

1966 Living with Darlene & Chuck in Seattle

1967- Juvenile Hall

1976- I Praise Thee (poem to Stanley)

1976- My Second Lover, Stanley Dunne

1976- Paul McCartney and Wings

1976-1330 Bush Street #9J

1977- 1667 Haight Street

1977- Trip to San Diego with Mary Jo

1977-1980- Tumultuous Relationship with John Perry

1978- 525 Haight Street

1979- September- Dad is Murdered

1980's- AIDS- Death and Dying

1980- Winter- First Trip to New York

1980- Word, Sound and Power

1981- Milton- Falling in Love

1982-1993 465 Waller Street

1982-1994 Computers to MacNursing

1984- 33rd Birthday

1985- Graduation from Nursing School

1985- Trip to Hawaii (Oahu)

1988- MIdnight Caller

1989- Earthquake!

1991- Aug 10th- Mom Passes Away

1991- Black Males in Oils

1991- Crack of My Life

1993- Move to Vallejo & Our First Home

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

1995-3. Grandmother Rogers & Aunts Visit Darlene's

1995-4. Amber

1998- Camping at Russian River

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

2000- Resignation from John George

2001- April- Trip to Cancun

2001- Peace and Justice

2001- September 11th

2002- April-Puerto Vallarta & Blue Bay Getaway

2002- Nov 12th- My Stepfather, George McHenry Passes Away

2003- Trip to D.C. and N.Y.

2004- Feb- Road Trip to Baha Mexico

2004- Walling Family Reunion in Spokane

2005- Christmas Poem

2005- Darlene Visit for Pride Celebration

2005- Trip to Orlando

2005-1. Europe- London

2005-2. Europe- Paris

2005-3. Europe- Venice

2005-4. Europe- Florence

2005-5. Europe- Rome

2005-6. Europe- Athens

2005-7. Knee Surgery & Tongue Biopsy

2006 Christmas Poem

2006- February 23- Times Herald

2006- Palm Springs White Party

2006- Trip to Seattle

2006-July 8th Solano Peace and Justice Coalition BBQ

2007- Feb- Carnival Destiny- Our First Cruise

2007- Tre and Casey Visit

2008- Aug 15-18 Spokane Visit

2008- Psycho Song

2009- Honored by Vallejo Gay Network

2009- Women in Oils

2010 Christmas Poem

2010- Feb. R.C. Mariner of the Seas Mexican Riviera Cruise

2010- June 24- Badlands

2010- Trip to Seattle

2010-1. Europe- Amsterdam

2010-2. Europe- Paris

2010-3. Europe- Barcelona & Sitges

2010-4. Europe- Madrid

2011-1. Feb. My Fabulous 60th Birthday Weekend

2011-2. April- L.A., Palm Springs & "The White Party"

2011-3. Poem- Girl From Medical Lake

2011-4. Old Man Dancing

2011-5. May- Misty and Alex Visit

2011-6. August- Darlene and Sean's Visit

2011-7. Alex 16-18 & Pics

2012- March- Carnival Splendor Mexican Riviera with Family

2013- Wedding

2014- Christmas Poem

2014- First Gay Cruise

2014- September Road Trip to San Diego

2015- Seasonal Affective Blues

2015- Second Gay Cruise

2015- War on Christmas poem

2015-"Badlands" and Gay Bar Etiquette

2015-September 8. Political History

2016 Do Not Speak for Gay Males

2016- April- Palm Springs RV Adventure

4/4/2016- Not Going Along to Get Along

9/4/15- Liberals vs Conservatives

2005 Darlene Visit for Gay Pride- Click for story.
1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
My Mother- Click for more photos.
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
1958-1959- 3rd Grade- Click to read story.
Me in first grade- Click for story.
1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
Photos of Dad & His Family- Click for story.
1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
Amber- Click to read story.
Summer of Love- Click to read story.
Second Gay Cruise- Click for story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click for story.
2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
Me in 3rd grade- Click for story.
1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
Women in Oils- Click for story
Grandview- Click for story
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
Me in my 20's in 1970's- Click for story.
My Dad's Family- Click for story.
1982-1993 Waller Street- Click to read story.
Escondido 1960's- Click for story
Beatle haircut- Click for story.
Darlene Marries Chuck- Click for story.
Earthquake! Click to read story.
2005- Darlene Visits for Gay Pride- Click to read story.
5th Grade in Abilene Tx- Click for story
4th Grade- Click for story.
Forbidden Dreams of Love- Click for story.
Gay Disco 70's- Click for story
Black Men in Oils- Click to read story
Palouse- Click for story
1974- On Larkin Street- Click for story.
The Psychedelic Experience- Click to read story.
Where I was born- Click for story.
Click to read "Introduction."
Cockettes & Angels of Light- Click for story
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click to read story.