Wednesday, 18 March 2015 04:25

1977- 1667 Haight Street

Rate this item
(0 votes)

melate70sAfter I had a fairly amicable break up with Stanley, I moved to 1667 Haight Street in what is called the "upper Haight." I bought my first brand new car in 1977 which was a Toyota Celica. I loved that car and took some great trips in it. Mary Jo and I drove down to San Diego along the coast through Big Sur. We saw Darlene and her kids in San Diego and spent some time at the beach and then drove back up Highway One again and stopped off to see Hearst Castle. me1977

Darlene had been living in San Diego with Misty and Chris and I think she was receiving some government assistance at the time. 

It was also during this time that I first discovered Russian River and Guerneville which was becoming a gay destination on weekends. I beleive there were even chartered buses that would take gay people up there but I usually went with my friend Jerry Hoy, who was another psych. tech. that worked with me at Saint Francis. Russian River had nude beaches where we would spend the day. This was really a nude beach phase of my life. Other nude beaches popular with gay people at the time included San Gregorio, Devils Slide, and Lands End. 

Although I had come out of the closet to almost everyone by this time, I had not yet resolved all my own issues about being gay by this time. I came across a book that was immensely helpful called "Loving Someone Gay," by Don Clark. It was a revelation for me and helped me immensely. I even made an appointment with the author and talked to him about some of my lingering issues. I think those issues also had everything to do with being in my twenties as well and just trying to figure out where my life was heading. Don Clark was too expensive for me to continue to see and I went to Operation Concern, where they had a sliding scale and met Jim Weber, who would be my therapist for several years.

1667 Haight was a tiny studio apartment with a small galley kitchen and a bathroom. It was about a block from the I-Beam dance club which was the best dance club in the city at that time. Everybody went there for the tea dance on Sunday evenings and if I wanted to meet someone, I just had to go stand outside my doorway and pick one out from the passing parade.

1667haightOne of the problems with promiscuity is keeping all the men straight in your head. When you are out somewhere and you see someone that looks familiar, it is always a little awkward if you can't remember their name. To solve this problem, I bought a Polaroid camera that took instant pictures and when I brought someone home, which were called "tricks" in those days, I would take a picture of them and write their name on the picture to try to remember who was who. Ultimately, I ran out of film before I ran out of men.

Ever a believer in marketing, I had "trick" cards made that I could hand out to attractive prospects that I might see during the course of my day. They were business card size and had my contact information such as name and phone number and then at the bottom, there was the tag line "Availability subject to change without notice," as I didn't want anyone to think that I had any commitment to actually getting together with them if I didn't remember who they were or lost interest by the time they called. 

One night I was trolling outside my front door on Haight street for the man of the moment, and across the street, I saw three attractive black men on their way to the I-Beam. I ran across the street and gave one of them my trick card. His name turned out to be John Perry. I would have a tumultuous relationship with him for the next three years. 

 

Read 7015 times Last modified on Sunday, 31 May 2015 20:10

followme

2005 Darlene Visit for Gay Pride- Click for story.
Summer of Love- Click to read story.
Palouse- Click for story
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
Gay Disco 70's- Click for story
Me in 3rd grade- Click for story.
Me in my 20's in 1970's- Click for story.
Photos of Dad & His Family- Click for story.
Second Gay Cruise- Click for story.
1974- On Larkin Street- Click for story.
1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click to read story.
Black Men in Oils- Click to read story
4th Grade- Click for story.
Me in first grade- Click for story.
1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
1958-1959- 3rd Grade- Click to read story.
1982-1993 Waller Street- Click to read story.
Earthquake! Click to read story.
Amber- Click to read story.
My Mother- Click for more photos.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click for story.
5th Grade in Abilene Tx- Click for story
Women in Oils- Click for story
1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
My Dad's Family- Click for story.
Forbidden Dreams of Love- Click for story.
Escondido 1960's- Click for story
2005- Darlene Visits for Gay Pride- Click to read story.
The Psychedelic Experience- Click to read story.
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
Grandview- Click for story
Darlene Marries Chuck- Click for story.
1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
Click to read "Introduction."
Where I was born- Click for story.
2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
Beatle haircut- Click for story.
Cockettes & Angels of Light- Click for story

Article

01. Introduction

03- Dads Family

03- Photos of my Father and his family

04- My Mother's Family

04- Photos of my Mom

04- Video of my Mom

04- Walling Family Reunions

04-Audio Files of My Mom

04. Billie

04. Ole

04.1. Forbidden Dreams of Love

04.2. Flames of Forbidden Love

04.3 Mom Writing Her Life Story

05- Jim Tarbert

05. Roger

1950's Grandview to Toppenish

1957-1958 1st Grade

1958-1959- Third Grade

1959- Palouse

1961- 4th Grade- Last time I wore a dress

1962- Abilene

1963- Escondido- Early 60's

1964- Darlene Marries Chuck

1964- My Beatle Haircut

1964-The Luv Please

1965 or 1966- Steve Castle

1965- In Foster Care

1966 Living with Darlene & Chuck in Seattle

1967- Juvenile Hall

1976- I Praise Thee (poem to Stanley)

1976- My Second Lover, Stanley Dunne

1976- Paul McCartney and Wings

1976-1330 Bush Street #9J

1977- 1667 Haight Street

1977- Trip to San Diego with Mary Jo

1977-1980- Tumultuous Relationship with John Perry

1978- 525 Haight Street

1979- September- Dad is Murdered

1980's- AIDS- Death and Dying

1980- Winter- First Trip to New York

1980- Word, Sound and Power

1981- Milton- Falling in Love

1982-1993 465 Waller Street

1982-1994 Computers to MacNursing

1984- 33rd Birthday

1985- Graduation from Nursing School

1985- Trip to Hawaii (Oahu)

1988- MIdnight Caller

1989- Earthquake!

1991- Aug 10th- Mom Passes Away

1991- Black Males in Oils

1991- Crack of My Life

1993- Move to Vallejo & Our First Home

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

1995-3. Grandmother Rogers & Aunts Visit Darlene's

1995-4. Amber

1998- Camping at Russian River

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

2000- Resignation from John George

2001- April- Trip to Cancun

2001- Peace and Justice

2001- September 11th

2002- April-Puerto Vallarta & Blue Bay Getaway

2002- Nov 12th- My Stepfather, George McHenry Passes Away

2003- Trip to D.C. and N.Y.

2004- Feb- Road Trip to Baha Mexico

2004- Walling Family Reunion in Spokane

2005- Christmas Poem

2005- Darlene Visit for Pride Celebration

2005- Trip to Orlando

2005-1. Europe- London

2005-2. Europe- Paris

2005-3. Europe- Venice

2005-4. Europe- Florence

2005-5. Europe- Rome

2005-6. Europe- Athens

2005-7. Knee Surgery & Tongue Biopsy

2006 Christmas Poem

2006- February 23- Times Herald

2006- Palm Springs White Party

2006- Trip to Seattle

2006-July 8th Solano Peace and Justice Coalition BBQ

2007- Feb- Carnival Destiny- Our First Cruise

2007- Tre and Casey Visit

2008- Aug 15-18 Spokane Visit

2008- Psycho Song

2009- Honored by Vallejo Gay Network

2009- Women in Oils

2010 Christmas Poem

2010- Feb. R.C. Mariner of the Seas Mexican Riviera Cruise

2010- June 24- Badlands

2010- Trip to Seattle

2010-1. Europe- Amsterdam

2010-2. Europe- Paris

2010-3. Europe- Barcelona & Sitges

2010-4. Europe- Madrid

2011-1. Feb. My Fabulous 60th Birthday Weekend

2011-2. April- L.A., Palm Springs & "The White Party"

2011-3. Poem- Girl From Medical Lake

2011-4. Old Man Dancing

2011-5. May- Misty and Alex Visit

2011-6. August- Darlene and Sean's Visit

2011-7. Alex 16-18 & Pics

2012- March- Carnival Splendor Mexican Riviera with Family

2013- Wedding

2014- Christmas Poem

2014- First Gay Cruise

2014- September Road Trip to San Diego

2015- Seasonal Affective Blues

2015- Second Gay Cruise

2015- War on Christmas poem

2015-"Badlands" and Gay Bar Etiquette

2015-September 8. Political History

2016 Do Not Speak for Gay Males

2016- April- Palm Springs RV Adventure

4/4/2016- Not Going Along to Get Along

9/4/15- Liberals vs Conservatives

2005 Darlene Visit for Gay Pride- Click for story.
Me in 3rd grade- Click for story.
Click to read "Introduction."
2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
My Dad's Family- Click for story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click to read story.
Me in my 20's in 1970's- Click for story.
1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
Second Gay Cruise- Click for story.
1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
4th Grade- Click for story.
Me in first grade- Click for story.
Darlene Marries Chuck- Click for story.
Black Men in Oils- Click to read story
The Psychedelic Experience- Click to read story.
Earthquake! Click to read story.
Amber- Click to read story.
Escondido 1960's- Click for story
Forbidden Dreams of Love- Click for story.
Women in Oils- Click for story
5th Grade in Abilene Tx- Click for story
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click for story.
1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
Photos of Dad & His Family- Click for story.
1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
Gay Disco 70's- Click for story
Grandview- Click for story
Palouse- Click for story
Where I was born- Click for story.
Summer of Love- Click to read story.
Beatle haircut- Click for story.
1974- On Larkin Street- Click for story.
1958-1959- 3rd Grade- Click to read story.
2005- Darlene Visits for Gay Pride- Click to read story.
1982-1993 Waller Street- Click to read story.
Cockettes & Angels of Light- Click for story
My Mother- Click for more photos.